If you meet someone and you think they are perfect you should probably run in the other direction, if you’re not ready that is. Because your soul mate is the person who pushes all your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis and makes you face your shit. A soul mate knows all your inner secrets and love you still.

It is not easy to have a good relationship but I don’t want easy, easy doesn’t make you grow, easy doesn’t make you think.

I would thank my lucky star every day that I’m with a man who makes me think and who challenges me.
Now there’s my definition of true love.

Life Law #1: You either get it or you don’t.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.

Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.

Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.

Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn’t working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.

Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn’t care less about thoughts without actions.

Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.

Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.

Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.

Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.

Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what yo9 want and take your turn.

(source: Dr Phil)

I have spent this past year in a relationship with a drug addict…it took me nearly the full year to see that he was using. I have no personal experience of drugs so it was really hard for me to see all the signs that were right there.

Apparently, the way you seek awards in your life defines your personality type. Do you seek instant alleviation or can you rest in the knowledge that it will come later on? Some of us seek a quick fix that will ease the pain we feel. The drug prone personality is constantly trying to find alleviation, to escape from their anxiety.

We all, users and non-users, fight really hard to hide the pain and anxiety that we feel inside. We lie to ourselves; telling ourselves that the things we desire also are what is best for us, telling ourselves that the easiest way is the right way.

I’ve found that it is okay to hate the “using” person and at the same time love the person behind the drugs. The problem is that I feel nothing for him…all feelings are gone. Still, why is it that some of the years that have past in your life are so hard to let go of?

I will write about my life just as it happens. And I will not be too personal about it either. There may be some misspellings along the way as English is not my native language. Please, do feel free to comment on my English or anything else should it bother you. Okej, here we go!

Sometimes your nearness takes my breath away and all the things I want to say can´t find no voice. Then in silence, I can only hope, my eyes will speak my heart.